“Cute” is not enough for a harem bed. 🛏️Kate🛏️Phil🛏️Michelle🛏️Yuki?
And here it is. Informed consent is the most critical part of any polyamorous relationship.
Absolutely. Everyone knows where they stand, what’s going on, and can voice their feelings on it openly.
About the only thing I think they could have done better, and this will likely come with experience, is making a plan for “what if this goes further?”
I see this as an absolute win
“Huh? Really? Is that true?” — Yuki may be used to being so over-the-top sexy that people are constantly hitting on her, so she is constantly watching out for any apparently innocent conversation that might have an ulterior motive.
Huh. Um. Don’t like this. When it’s her, she responds with “oh, i see how it could look that way.” but when it’s Phil, she responds by blaming him. Dodging responsibility isn’t exactly a positive trait. Double standards for flirtatious behavior is very bad.
This is setting off several red flags… definitely a “hold up, we need to talk” moment.
If you change your name the spam filter is not going to properly recognize you in future posts. That said, she’s not really blaming him. She’s admitted she was playing with him- and that it could look like firting, and then found out he was flirting back- but she knows hes just playing along. So the issue becomes how Kate and Michelle feel about it- thus what she said here. This is why Phils response to basically “yeah- Kate is clearly ok with this and is having fun with it-“.
I admit, its a complicated social situation where people are saying things that they don’t explicitly mean, you have to gauge how the characters are interacting beyond what they are saying. No one is angry or upset- though there is some confusion, which is totally normal.
I had some similar responses to a recent story subplot in one of my own works. It can often be a problem with short-form updates that people see only where a conversation is now and not where it’s going, and can quickly forget past events too.
The way I parse this is that Kate and Michelle are giving this pair permission to be flirty, but not to take things further without another assessment. Full consent, boundaries are maintained, and no hurt feelings are had.
Relationships are never as clean cut as they should be, but that’s just life being life. If someone stumbles a little, you hold their hand—not push them down.
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“Cute” is not enough for a harem bed. 🛏️Kate🛏️Phil🛏️Michelle🛏️Yuki?
And here it is. Informed consent is the most critical part of any polyamorous relationship.
Absolutely. Everyone knows where they stand, what’s going on, and can voice their feelings on it openly.
About the only thing I think they could have done better, and this will likely come with experience, is making a plan for “what if this goes further?”
I see this as an absolute win
“Huh? Really? Is that true?” — Yuki may be used to being so over-the-top sexy that people are constantly hitting on her, so she is constantly watching out for any apparently innocent conversation that might have an ulterior motive.
Huh. Um. Don’t like this. When it’s her, she responds with “oh, i see how it could look that way.” but when it’s Phil, she responds by blaming him. Dodging responsibility isn’t exactly a positive trait. Double standards for flirtatious behavior is very bad.
This is setting off several red flags… definitely a “hold up, we need to talk” moment.
If you change your name the spam filter is not going to properly recognize you in future posts. That said, she’s not really blaming him. She’s admitted she was playing with him- and that it could look like firting, and then found out he was flirting back- but she knows hes just playing along. So the issue becomes how Kate and Michelle feel about it- thus what she said here. This is why Phils response to basically “yeah- Kate is clearly ok with this and is having fun with it-“.
I admit, its a complicated social situation where people are saying things that they don’t explicitly mean, you have to gauge how the characters are interacting beyond what they are saying. No one is angry or upset- though there is some confusion, which is totally normal.
I had some similar responses to a recent story subplot in one of my own works. It can often be a problem with short-form updates that people see only where a conversation is now and not where it’s going, and can quickly forget past events too.
The way I parse this is that Kate and Michelle are giving this pair permission to be flirty, but not to take things further without another assessment. Full consent, boundaries are maintained, and no hurt feelings are had.
Relationships are never as clean cut as they should be, but that’s just life being life. If someone stumbles a little, you hold their hand—not push them down.
Thank god